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You decide

what pleasure means to you

erotic and otherwise

Alison Pilling (she/they) is a sex coach, teacher and writer, on a personal and professional journey through the erotic realms.

Exploring the world of conscious sensuality, pleasure and power in myriad ways, towards personal and erotic freedom.

As creator and host of The Sex Lectures, Ali offers a permissive space for promoting sex-positive information and inspiration.

Feeling like there is more than you have experienced in sex is natural.

Of course, there’s more: healing, fun, eroticism, better touch, better relationships, better styles of communication and understanding. Rather than feeling bewildered or complaining about where you’re at, the decision may only be giving the time to explore what that ‘more’ could be.

The decision is the sliding door.

Head Above
the Parapet

Here’s the writing of the practitioners I admire, in my field and beyond, personal and professional writing beyond the sales pitch and censors. Here we are brave, sharing what we know, what we’ve learned, what we believe. I’ve invited them to write about what we find hard to say or share. I invite you to come into our world with all its beauty, suffering, paradox, eroticism and pleasure.

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It’s Not Them

Why did your exes leave you? Of course not all of the exes are worth listening to. What would your nicest or most recent ex say is tough to be with about you?

What Happens When We Stop Performing and Start Feeling?

Sometimes, we even go for an anger fuck.

Let's Hear It For the Little Emotions

Are those ones also welcome? Indifference, contempt, boredom, intolerance, cynicism, skepticism, stuckness.

Untangling the Erotic Mind

Erotic and relationship habits are hard to break. First you have to see them, then you can do something about them.

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Parasexuality, Porn, and Power - Lex Ryder

Lex Ryder has taken some wide swings on the pendulum so far - from the super heady world of scientific publishing, to the “get out of your head and into your body” realms of embodiment and conscious sexuality…

Lex Ryder has taken some wide swings on the pendulum so far - from the super heady world of scientific publishing, to the “get out of your head and into your body” realms of embodiment and conscious sexuality; and from chronic people pleaser to Pro Domme.

Nowadays, they are fascinated by how POWER shows up in the individual’s body and mind, as well as in the collective, and how all of these things interact. Always ahead of their time, with their Pleasure Rebels offerings, they guide people into exploring power through the lenses of ethical kink and queerness. They also continue to infiltrate the heady worlds, working with leaders and followers to create empowering workplaces in which everyone can thrive.

Their talk tonight, Parasexuality, Porn, and Power invites us to think about why censorship is an issue we should all be concerned about.

https://www.pleasurerebels.com/

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Hosted at The International Anthony Burgess Foundation in Manchester, with thanks for filming by Zoe Belton, edits by Firdoz Gangat https://londonalchemy.com/

Drier than a Camel's Armpit, Menopause and Sex - Claire McCauley

Dr Claire is also an oncology doctor who treats people with breast cancer. Claire is passionate about supporting people to create the kind of sex life that is right for them…

Dr Claire is also an oncology doctor who treats people with breast cancer. Claire is passionate about supporting people to create the kind of sex life that is right for them throwing away ideas of what people “should” be doing, Claire concentrates on what is meaningful and nourishing to each individual. Using mindful self-touch, somatic sexology and erotic intelligence alongside practical science and research.

Menopause is a certainty for 50% of the population. It has far-reaching consequences for sexual expression, pleasure and intimacy, yet we are taught very little about it. So in this 12 minutes, Claire shares everything you need to know about fanny wellness in later life.

https://www.drclairemacaulay.com

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Filmed at The Anthony Burgess Centre in Manchester.

On Men, Dating & Desire - Bear Phillips

Arriving at the conclusion that Feminism Will Make a Man Out of You! Bear tells the story of his journey to personal healing and liberation; the experiences that led him to work with sexuality and trauma, and of his learnings for men in how we might better find connection with others in dating, love and sex.

Bear Phillips: The (Feminist) Love Coach, is a trauma-informed bodyworker, and an intimacy, dating & relationship coach. In his coaching he works primarily with men around questions of masculinity, and how patriarchy impacts our ability to have meaningful and authentic relationships. His first book; Feminism Will Make a Man Out of You! is due for release Autumn 2024.

www.bearphillips.co.uk

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