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You decide

what pleasure means to you

erotic and otherwise

Alison Pilling (she/they) is a sex coach, teacher and writer, on a personal and professional journey through the erotic realms.

Exploring the world of conscious sensuality in myriad ways, towards personal and erotic freedom.

As creator and host of The Sex Lectures, Ali offers a permissive space for promoting sex-positive information and inspiration. 

WELCOME TO SEX SCHOOL FOR GROWN UPS

Feeling like there is more than you have experienced in sex is natural.

Of course, there’s more: healing, fun, eroticism, better touch, better relationships, better styles of communication and understanding. Rather than feeling bewildered or complaining about where you’re at, the decision may only be giving the time to explore what that ‘more’ could be. 

The decision is the sliding door.

Head Above
the Parapet

Here’s the writing of the practitioners I admire, in my field and beyond, personal and professional writing beyond the sales pitch and censors. Here we are brave, sharing what we know, what we’ve learned, what we believe. I’ve invited them to write about what we find hard to say or share. I invite you to come into our world with all its beauty, suffering, paradox, eroticism and pleasure.

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It’s Not Them
It’s Not Them

What are all the ways you’ve been disappointed in love? No matter how many times you have called in the one, written lists, done sex magic, or let go, the plaintive call for love gets fainter as we realise that there are so many things we vibe out that may make us unsuitable for some romanticised version of love. It takes a while to understand it may not be them but you.

What Happens When We Stop Performing and Start Feeling?
What Happens When We Stop Performing and Start Feeling?

Last week, my partner and I had a fight. We talked it out—sure. But words can only do so much. They’re just projections of our inner worlds, attempting to make sense of something that’s often too raw, too complex, to put into language.

Let's Hear It For the Little Emotions
Let's Hear It For the Little Emotions

“All emotions are welcome.”

I’ve heard that so many times, often it’s an invitation for tears, vulnerability, rage. In many places in life, these emotions have to be suppressed at the risk of being called a drama queen or having to swallow anger when it’s too hard for the recipient to hear.

Untangling the Erotic Mind
Untangling the Erotic Mind

Erotic and relationship habits are hard to break. First you have to see them, then you can do something about them.

The Sex Lectures

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On Men, Dating & Desire - Bear Phillips
On Men, Dating & Desire - Bear Phillips

Arriving at the conclusion that Feminism Will Make a Man Out of You!  Bear tells the story of his journey to personal healing and liberation; the experiences that led him to work with sexuality and trauma, and of his learnings for men in how we might better find connection with others in dating, love and sex.

Bear Phillips: The (Feminist) Love Coach, is a trauma-informed bodyworker, and an intimacy, dating & relationship coach. In his coaching he works primarily with men around questions of masculinity, and how patriarchy impacts our ability to have meaningful and authentic relationships. His first book; Feminism Will Make a Man Out of You! is due for release Autumn 2024.

www.bearphillips.co.uk

Reclaiming Eroticism - Stella Anna Sonnenbaum
Reclaiming Eroticism - Stella Anna Sonnenbaum
The Sex Lectures Origin & Vision
The Sex Lectures Origin & Vision

In this video Sex Lectures creator and host Alison Pilling, talks about the origins and vision, co-host Jem Ayres explains something of the work of sexuality practitioners and there are clips of three of the fabulous speakers from the Forest Row event.