You decide

what pleasure means to you

erotic and otherwise

Alison Pilling (she/they) is a sex coach, teacher and writer, on a personal and professional journey through the erotic realms.

Exploring the world of conscious sensuality in myriad ways, towards personal and erotic freedom.

As creator and host of The Sex Lectures, Ali offers a permissive space for promoting sex-positive information and inspiration.

WELCOME TO SEX SCHOOL FOR GROWN UPS

Feeling like there is more than you have experienced in sex is natural.

Of course, there’s more: healing, fun, eroticism, better touch, better relationships, better styles of communication and understanding. Rather than feeling bewildered or complaining about where you’re at, the decision may only be giving the time to explore what that ‘more’ could be.

The decision is the sliding door.

Head Above
the Parapet

Here’s the writing of the practitioners I admire, in my field and beyond, personal and professional writing beyond the sales pitch and insta censors. Here we are brave, sharing what we know, what we’ve learned, what we believe. I’ve invited them to write about what we find hard to say or share. I invite you to come into our world with all its beauty, suffering, paradox, eroticism and pleasure.

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Untangling the Erotic Mind

Erotic and relationship habits are hard to break. First you have to see them, then you can do something about them.

Wandering Beyond the Binary Boundary

I feel like I got to the non-heteronormative sex+ party late, and I don’t know what to make of myself in it. I’ve not given much thought to identity until recently, the truth is I pretty much haven’t had to. As a seemingly straight, white, privileged woman, I’ve taken my own sexual identity somewhat as a given and now I don’t know what to make of myself in that.

Exploring Embodied Consent & Boundaries

There’s a lot of information out about The Wheel of Consent out there. Brilliant, clear explanations about the quadrants, the purpose and the basis of it. Imho It’s a subtle, radical work of genius and thankfully spreading through the conscious sexuality teaching world.

The Yoga of Sexuality

Remember the first time you walked in to yoga class? The uncertainty, the strange smell, the uncomfortableness of the postures, other people looking like they knew what they were doing and effortlessly moving from one posture to another. Then trying to keep up with what the teacher was doing and then maybe the class included your first Om or meditation? And the busy mind telling you, you weren’t doing it right and a bit of embarrassment or shyness.

And yet there was something that made you go back.

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The Sex Lectures

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The Sex Lectures Origin & Vision

In this video Sex Lectures creator and host Alison Pilling, talks about the origins and vision, co-host Jem Ayres explains something of the work of sexuality practitioners and there are clips of three of the fabulous speakers from the Forest Row event.

On Men, Dating & Desire - Bear Phillips

Arriving at the conclusion that Feminism Will Make a Man Out of You! Bear tells the story of his journey to personal healing and liberation; the experiences that led him to work with sexuality and trauma, and of his learnings for men in how we might better find connection with others in dating, love and sex.

Bear Phillips: The (Feminist) Love Coach, is a trauma-informed bodyworker, and an intimacy, dating & relationship coach. In his coaching he works primarily with men around questions of masculinity, and how patriarchy impacts our ability to have meaningful and authentic relationships. His first book; Feminism Will Make a Man Out of You! is due for release Autumn 2024.

www.bearphillips.co.uk

Reclaiming Eroticism - Stella Anna Sonnenbaum

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