Grey

Fixations are calling for something beyond the compulsion. Jack Morin identifies some steps to getting out of old patterns that become troublesome turn ons - the erotic drivers that bring diminishing returns. They may be exciting yet over time ultimately unsatisfying; habit, dick-driven leading to disappointment, rejection and emptiness. The steps that lead to erotic change include clarifying your intentions, cultivating self-affirmation, stopping old patterns & being in the grey zone. Mourn your losses, learn & feel sensations of embodied pleasure, then risk the unfamiliar and integrate your discoveries.  Change takes desire, courage and practical action. It doesn't mean wholly letting go of your core erotic theme or your fantasies, but having more wisdom and space around these so that you can be more aware and enjoy other pleasures as well.