Decide

I’m a sex coach and over a decade have trained with incredible teachers like Dr Betty Martin and had personal encounters that have pulled words and the honesty out of me, in spaces that allowed my secrecy, judgment and reticence to feel safe enough to dissolve, however excruciating. Sometimes, simply being asked an interesting question was enough, or being offered something I’d never considered before. I've taken part in countless listening pairs, sharing circles and groups with folx committed to self-awareness and honesty. I needed to be inspired, to have role models and structures. It's too hard to discover all of this alone. If the commitment to change is a personal decision, with others, we have a chance to practice relationally, to become who we want to be.