Oral

Slow, restful oral sex not aiming for orgasm becomes a pleasurable meditation. Lost between thighs, the person doing it can enjoy the feelings in their mouth and drop back into themselves and sensation. With no performance objective of making someone come or trying to be affimed, everyone can relax. Pleasure can move in waves, dropping into presence and timelessness. Without pressure to climax there’s the possibility of pauses and expanding states of relaxed arousal rather than peak and drop. The distinction between giving or receiving melts away.