Tedium

It’s a tedious thing to feel responsible for a man’s arousal. Or a woman’s elusive turn on. You’re not. One of the early freeing things we learned in tantra was that you’re responsible for your arousal and I’m responsible for mine. When an ejaculation becomes an expectation, it’s a prison with a teeny escape hatch for everyone involved. What if release is not the end point, but raising, using and enjoying the life force energy of arousal is?