I have woken up to a guy having unwanted sex with me. The previous evening, when I’d invited him to stay over, we’d agreed that PIV sex wasn’t going to happen. Waking, for a brief while, I watched it happen as a disinterested observer, slightly outside myself, and of what was happening, wondering when it might end? I stopped him; I got the ‘I don’t know what I was doing’ excuse defence. What was he thinking? That I’d be alright with it? That I'd enjoy it? Calmly, I asked him to apologise to my yoni. To go down and say sorry. He did it immediately. The apology made a huge difference. Choosing to have sex with him in my car a few days later wouldn’t have been possible otherwise.
