Relax

When intimacy is only reserved for PIV sex in the bedroom, we’re fucked, and not in a good way. How about seeing connection as shifting shades of pleasure, that also allows us to go about our business, build empires, paint paintings, follow interests, heal old hurts and do errands with an inner joy. Seeing the wonder of what you’ve created with each other, choosing to notice, care and listen each day. The seeking gene switched off, knowing what you’ve created is precious and to be relied upon. In these days of what Esther Perel calls ‘secure ambivalence’, seeing the freedom in daily showing up can let fear, fight and flight relax and imaginations soar.