Space

Receiving can be challenging,  as first we have to know what we want to receive. Sometimes that can be nothing. It can be space. Space to not know, space and time to decide. Space not to meet anyone's expectation, space to not have to be bothered, space for ourselves, space to ask for support if we need something, space as distance, space to read, space to be creative, to pursue our own satisfactions, regardless of what anyone else wants us to want from them. And that’s hard for intimate partners who may want love, touch, closeness, intimacy, to be seen, held and to feel physical, emotional and mental connection. Asking for time alone runs the risk of someone else feeling rejected or hurt. Natural enough, as “I need space” is often a signal of unrest or unhappiness in the relationship. Yet distance gives time for reflection. Withdrawal allows breathing space, time to take stock and arrive at new perspectives.