Initiate

One of the greatest ways to receive more satisfying experiences is to learn to initiate the touch you’d like. To learn to slow down with the touch so you can actually feel what’s happening to you. To let the focus move to sensuality rather than sex. To begin to understand how you’d love to touch another, to understand the joy of placing your hands on someone with full consent, staying still, feeling the warmth of their skin, to have time to decide what you’d like to try, do or feel. To create touch that is exquisite, ecstatic and rapturous relies on the ability to notice and trust yourself, to value what you notice, the voice to express requests, adjustments, and slow down. This means not relying on chemistry, magic or telepathy, each of those somewhat dubious indicators or guarantees of satisfying or nurturing touch.