Choose

If much of sex happens to you, you respond to what you think is wanted of you, unspoken or otherwise, you’re missing the joy of knowing and feeling how to choose. You might get lucky and good things happen, maybe you’ll be non plussed.  Not sure what’s wrong, surely you’re being a gentleman or good girl, following the performance script. Though not quite satisfying enough, erotically or emotionally, I imagine you know this feeling of something missing. Choosing is revolutionary. Noticing, valuing and trusting what you’d like to create in touch takes it to a new magic. Asking to touch and to be touched, being able to express what’s happening, pausing, slowing down, feeling relaxed arousal, delicious sensations and closeness. It’s time to jump off the conveyor belt and choose consciously in as many moments as you can create. It can dissipate randomness and create heartfelt moments of meaning and honesty.