Needs

People are trying to get their needs met, just like you are. They want what they want, just like you do. The gift of compassion is to believe that everyone is doing their best in their own struggle and strategy. Each person has a different personality, motivation, parents, trauma, and experiences. There’s no earthly reason why someone might want exactly what you want in life or in the bedroom. However, it might not be what you need, and then the relationship presents dilemmas. So a great way to work it out is to check rather than assume or guess. It doesn’t ruin the magic. It saves you time, dignity and sanity.