Objectify

Conscious objectification can be useful in getting exactly what you’d love. To be given permission and consent to objectify, to have willing access to your desire, is a gift. So, allow your inner control freak. Adjust, be pernickety, pick clothing, perfection and posture with clear intention. See where it takes you. I imagine a Sisyphean task of unsustainability and misery over time. But for a few minutes or hours of getting what you long for, knock yourself out.