Open

I have great regard for men who explore the conscious sexuality field. Straight men often want to work with feminine energy and avoid working with other men in the room.  I can see why, wanting softness and being scared of what women are scared of, the unspoken threat of intrusion or male violence. Scared of themselves, the brittle mirror and in need of nurture. Unsurprising. Yet this puts too much pressure on the feminine to heal the loss and wrath of men. To keep them from jumping off bridges, disappearing into the gym or getting wasted for want of connection. It’s too much to put the pressure solely on the feminine. So, how about you help each other out of the masculine mess? I admire the men who hold mens’ groups, who share new ways of being male in a confusing world, allowing vulnerability and brotherhood as the place to share without conflating the longing for intimacy, understanding, acceptance and softness. Gone are the days of “you’ll be alright, mate”. It’s not enough. Respect for distance gives way to expression of emotion, listening and letting the walls down. To feel safe to open up. The longing may not go away, but the support becomes diffuse.